Saturday, September 13, 2008

Emersyn Jayne – Sep 11, 2008

Thursday, just after I landed in Kansas City, I received an emergency call to photograph our friend's newborn baby. For those of us who know family “K” we were filled with joy over the upcoming birth of little Emersyn. Sadly she died before birth and these pictures would be the only memories they would have of their little girl.

Please pray for this family as they grieve the lose of their child. Many of us can’t help but wonder why God would allow a mother to carry a baby full term, and then call the child home before birth. The truth is we many never understand the will of God in these situations until we meet Him face to face. Our vision of time is different then God's. We see time as past and present, but He see's the future. His Word tells us, “Before I formed you in the womb I knew you.” (Jeremiah 1:5) In other words God set’s us apart for His special purpose long before we were born. He created us to worship Him and no matter how difficult our situation might be, it’s vital to lean on Him and trust that He will carry us through.

I wish I had magical words in times like this, but I don’t. Nancy and I have a 20 year old daughter who is Autistic and on numerous occasions we've felt we couldn't take any more. But, it was during these times we found comfort in knowing He would carry us through.

Matthew 11:28-30 says, "Come to Me, all you who labor and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest. Take My yoke upon you and learn from Me, for I am gentle and lowly in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. For My yoke is easy and My burden is light.” Simply put, a yoke is a long plank with 2 curves cut in the bottom. It fits over our shoulders and Christ’s allowing Him to ease our burdens. What a vision of comfort.

So, how can we help others in times of grief? Sometimes the fewer words the better. Let your friends grieve in their own way, don’t criticize or tell them how to feel. Give them time and space and remember it’s ok if they cry out or yell at God. He is big and He can handle it. Let your actions do the talking by bringing them meals, cleaning their house, or mowing the lawn. Men, take the husband/father out for a few hours and women take the wife/mother out for a time of rest and relaxation. Offer to take their children for a day to give the husband and wife time alone. Reach out to someone, share some love asking nothing in return and most of all lift them in prayer. This is how we reflect the love of God to others.


Amy E. said...

These pictures are beautiful and what a blessing you were to that family. I had a cousin just recently went through the same experience. My prayers are with the family.

The Olson's: said...

Such beautiful & precious pictures.

Thank you for sharing about how to help someone who is grieving. My husband & I just attended a funeral for our friend's dad. He was a Christian but it doesn't lessen the hurt. Thank you for the reminder of how we can support them - words just don't seem to help at this time.
~ Leanne

valerie said...

I came over here from Nancy's blog. The pictures are so precious...and a blessing these parents will treasure always.
I'm thankful you were there to take the pictures of the baby.

I have a friend who carried her baby boy full term and about a week before her due date she wasn't feeling movement and he had passed away. She had to go through labor and delivery knowing her little boy wasn't alive.
It's hard to understand things like this, but like you said someday God will reveal it all to us and it will make perfect sense.

I didn't know you were a photographer. You do excellent work.

Phil said...

Beautiful words. Beautiful photos. Brynn Marie and I can't thank you enough. We were so disappointed and shocked - I didn't even think I wanted photos at the time. I'm so thankful you were able to come. The pictures are absolutely perfect.